Pick me, pick me!
One of my favorite YouTubers uploaded a vlog last week that I found less than appealing. And I wasn’t the only one. In fact, he had tens of thousands of dislikes. Pretty unusual for such a popular channel. I started to comment, something I’ve never done before, and wrote and erased a few responses. I decided no one would be interested in my opinion. Mostly because I wanted it to be constructive and not critical, so I wanted to be clear about my reasoning.
Over the weekend, I sat down with my daughter and showed her the video. She was as disappointed in it as I was. But it was her response that finally spurred me to comment. Well, three days later my comment is the leading comment under this very popular video. I’ve received more than 400 likes for it as of this writing. Let’s be honest, it’s pretty exciting to receive that kind of approval, right? But why?! They’re strangers! They don’t even know me. I mean, you can tell from the less-than nice comments under my comment that they don’t know me. Why then do we feel the need to share our opinions and seek approval from people we don’t even know?!
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all,” mom.
As the middle of five kids, I cannot tell you how many times I heard my mom repeat that sage advice to one of us. We know it’s a nice way to ask someone to keep their opinions to themselves. Of course, as a follower of Christ I know God is also pretty serious about being nice to others. In fact, Jesus commanded it:
Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.” Matthew 22: 37 – 40
but They’re asking for it!
Social media allows us an opinion where we never had one before. I don’t know about you, but I often think it’s not only not necessary sometimes, it’s just not appropriate. It can be tough to keep your mouth shut when you see that old high school friend acting like they did back in high school or one of your family members telling tall tales. But what about someone who makes a living out here in front of us, like a blogger (be nice to me!) or a YouTuber? They’re asking for it, right? No. I don’t think so. In fact, I know so. God (and Mom’s) great commandment still stand: Be nice. Act in love. You know what they say about opinions – everyone’s got one. And yours doesn’t always need to be heard.
I want you to want me.
It’s not just a Cheap Trick lyric. We all want to be wanted. But it’s not healthy to be wanted, to seek approval the way we sometimes do on social media. In fact, God tells us that we don’t even need it.
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. Matthew 6:33
For me, one opinion matters. And it never changes.
For the mountains may move
and the hills disappear,
but even then my faithful love for you will remain.
My covenant of blessing will never be broken,”
says the Lord, who has mercy on you. Isaiah 54:10